Josh posting...

I just wanted to give you a few more details...

 

For the first two weeks Shelly was feeling better every day.  Some people said that she was up and around too much, but she was really just being Shelly.  This past Sunday she started feeling a little bit of pain near one of her incisions.  She made nothing of it at first, but by Monday morning it was pretty bad.  I told her to go into a med center.  They wouldn't treat her there so she went to the ER.  Once at the ER they gave her a CAT scan and an ultrasound.  They were thinking it could be an abscess, a hernia, or an infection.  It was none of those.

 

Before she left, I reminded her to tell the doctors what happened in her abdomen 10 years ago.  About a decade ago Shelly had her gallbladder and appendix out.  Over the next few months she had some unexplained pain in her abdomen.  It got so bad that eventually Shelly's parents put her on a plane to Mayo Clinic.  Once there, what had been undiagnosed pain for several months was quickly healed with a shot of cortisone right into her surgery area.

 

We told the doctors about this on Monday, and by Wednesday they had ruled out everything else.  Shelly has been on narcotic pain medication up until today when they switched her to oral pain medication in preparation for sending her back home... and no treatment yet, just pain meds.

 

The "pain clinic" came in to do a workup on giving her a shot.  But for some strange reason they cannot operate inside the hospital.  Shelly will have to get an appointment with the "pain clinic" after she gets out.  Their first opening date is June 9.  This is just not acceptable.  Why did she need to sit at home drugged up for 10 days before she can get the shot that took four hours to get a decade ago?  I am very very frustrated.

 

Yesterday, Jean alluded to another situation I'm pretty frustrated about.  My kids need to feel like they can have a normal routine at home.  They are missing end of the school year zoo trips and picnics because of this.  I was lucky that Zoe told me about her end of the school year program today, or I would've missed that too.  The conversation went like this,

 

 

"Daddy, do I have school tomorrow?"

"No baby, today is your last day for the whole year."

"Oh.  We are having a program with a CD with all the songs on it and we are dancing and stuff and all the mommies and daddies are coming.  So you'll have to get somebody to bring you, right daddy?"

"Umm... absolutely baby."

 

They just need a normal routine.  They are very resilient, and are very strong.  But they are dealt with more than many of us deal with our whole lives.  I just want them to be kids.

 

Pray for us.  Pray that we have enough of volunteers to get us through to whenever Shelly can be back up to speed.  Pray for Zach and Rachel as a spearhead the charge while looking for jobs!

 

I don't know why we continue to roll out difficulty after difficulty around here, but I'm sick of it.

 

I don't know what this means spiritually yet. I don't think I'm supposed to.  I know that I'm still on God's team.  I know he has a plan, and I want to be a part of that plan...  no matter what that part is.  But I would be nuts if I didn't admit that sometimes I feel like our family is the team whipping boy.  Forget the big plans and grand schemes... just give me a mundane and average for a couple decades.

 

Sorry to vent.  Shelly does it sometimes, so I guess it was my turn.  Pray for us.

 

Print | posted @ Thursday, May 29, 2008 10:57 PM

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by weavermom at 5/29/2008 11:13 PM

I think it was fantastic to hear from you! I'm sorry that it has to be under such circumstances.

Although the circumstances are vastly different, I remember a time in my life of being intensely grateful when going to Walmart was all I had to talk of. I'm guessing that is a shadow of what you are describing here, and I'm praying for that "mundane and average for a couple decades" for all of you.
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by AmyL at 5/29/2008 11:18 PM

Venting is good. :)

If I'm not being too forward in asking, what kinds of things do you need volunteers for?

Still holding your family up in prayer.
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by BRENDA RITSEMA at 5/30/2008 8:21 AM

THANK YOU JOSH FOR BEING HONEST!!!!!!!! I love this site, because Shelly is able many times to say what is on her heart so that we can pray accordingly, it was about time you shared as well! We truly can't imagine what you are feeling, but as we pray God does give us direction in those prayers and I know that is His way of allowing us little glimplses of the truth you are walking in minute by minute.

Praying and believing on your behalf,
Brenda
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by Tammy at 5/30/2008 8:39 AM

Josh...et all!

Know that we are praying and specifically as you share!

Continue the race!

Love in Him,
Tammy
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by margie at 5/30/2008 9:25 AM

My heart aches for you... They say God won't give you more than you can handle and I remember my Mom shouting to Him, "Enough... Enough already " as we seemed to have more than our share. I wish I lived close enough to help. I will continue to pray for you, Shelly and your children.
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by Heather at 5/30/2008 11:38 AM

Praying for you all! Thank you for the update so that we can better know your specific needs at this time.

BWT, I don't think I've ever commented before, but I'm an IWU alum as well and was in the dorm with Shelly's sister (although I'm a bit older!)
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by Erica at 5/30/2008 1:54 PM

Josh, so sorry to hear about this frustrating development. I want to help! since Noah and Alex are in White Pine together, perhaps there is some way I can help! Can I help with arrangement the picnic on Friday or something else (like help with getting Noah to school). I also have 4 meals tucked in my freezer for you (haven't been able to connect with shelley re. getting them to you). I am in the school directory under Shier or you can email me at ericashier@hotmail.com. I would love to help...just let me know! (BTW I am Joel Emerson's SIL, so we're "connected" in more than one way!)
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by Heather at 5/30/2008 3:01 PM

We are still thinking, trusting, and praying along with you...
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by Wade & Debby at 5/30/2008 8:15 PM

Hey Josh & Shelly, We are praying for you earnestly all the way in Virginia....
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by Stacy at 5/30/2008 8:55 PM

Josh-

I was just wondering if you have ever thought about a live in nanny! It not only would give the kids stability, but allow Shelly some free time. She/he would keep the kids schedule straight, inform you of all things that parents need be involved in etc.. I was a nanny for a short time on the east coast. Just becuase I was their nanny, it didn't mean that they didn't love their daughter more than anything else in the world; but instead provided security and routine. I also did light household duties like baking, laundry etc.. I'm praying that Shelly finds relief soon from the pain and that life becomes as mundane as possible, SOON!!!
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by patty kemple at 5/30/2008 10:08 PM

i wish i could be your nanny:). we are always praying and loving you all! patty
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by Debi at 5/31/2008 8:29 AM

I'm so sorry for yet another challenge. Know that you are loved and lifted up. Praying for God's crazy peace and provision for your family. Jesus still LOVES, LOVES, LOVES you!
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by Annie at 5/31/2008 11:24 PM

KNOW that we are praying . . . that God STILL sits on the throne . . . and He is MORE than able to sustain you through this. Know that!!! Hugs and prayers tonight.
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by Lily at 6/2/2008 4:10 PM

You've been blessed with many things so many will never receive. Your life will never be considered average or mundane. You are very lucky in so many ways.
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by Sharlene MacLaren at 6/4/2008 1:16 AM

Please just know I'm sending up prayers on behalf of the whole Buck family.

"Lord, please intercede in ways that only YOU can do.
We need You every hour of the day!"

Keep believing...

Shar

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